Five ways to put thanks back into the holidays

Five ways to put thanks back into the holidays

“When a blessing is invoked, it changes the atmosphere. Some of the plenitude flows into our hearts from the invisible neighborhood of loving kindness.” — John O’Donohue

“When a blessing is invoked, it changes the atmosphere. Some of the plenitude flows into our hearts from the invisible neighborhood of loving kindness.” — John O’Donohue

by Patricia Damery — 

As the holidays approach, with all the tensions of holiday expectations, you can do five things to enhance the gratitude (and enjoyment) quotient of the days. Current research underscores the importance of doing so.

Gratitude is bonding and allows us to meet difficult situations with less stress. In fact, difficult situations may stimulate gratitude. A post-9/11 survey revealed Americans reported a surge in feelings of gratitude. University of California-Davis professor and gratitude researcher, Robert A. Emmons, attributes this to gratitude’s ability to buffer us against stress, reducing post-traumatic stress. Gratitude allows families to develop a sense of belonging, especially in the face of difficult situations.

New research shows that gratitude is important not only for mental health but for physical health as well. “Gratitude enhances our resilience, strengthening us to face disturbing information,” says Joanna Macy, eco-philosopher and Buddhist scholar.

Emmons and fellow researcher, Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, have shown that gratitude increases optimism and makes people feel better about their lives. Individuals who practiced writing about gratitude also did more physical exercise and had fewer visits to physicians.

A study by University of Utah psychology professor, Lisa Aspinwall, Ph.D., showed that optimistic law students responded to the stress of the semester with higher numbers of blood cells that protect the immune system than those students who were more pessimistic. Positive emotions also have an effect on heart health, hypertension and in reducing sudden death by congestive heart failure and coronary artery disease.

Gratitude opens doors in our hearts. As Emmons has stated, “It is gratitude that enables us to receive, and it is gratitude that motivates us to return the goodness that we have been given. In short, it is gratitude that enables us to be fully human.”

Gratitude is a blessing that connects us to each other and to the earth. The late Irish author John O’Donohue stated, “When a blessing is invoked, it changes the atmosphere. Some of the plenitude flows into our hearts from the invisible neighborhood of loving kindness.”

So how can we learn to foster an atmosphere of gratitude, blessing each other and the earth we live upon, even under the stressful situation of a holiday dinner with some difficult family members? Here are five suggestions:

1. Make your holiday food preparation an event in and of itself. Do not squeeze shopping and meal preparation between your usual tasks. Take breaks with a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy yourself. Remember, you are invoking a blessing in the meal you are preparing.

2. Shop the local farmers’ market. Buy food grown by local biodynamic or organic farmers whose work is not only to grow food but also to build soil. This food is a blessing to eat, and your support of local farmers is a blessing to them. “We need people who are conscious about the spiritual dimensions of really good food,” says biodynamic teacher and philosopher Dennis Klocek. “Food allows us to develop consciousness. Dead food feeds the corpse. Living food allows the soul to see the spirit.” Make sure the food you feed your family is living food that connects you to your community.

3. Begin the meal with a blessing. Ask each person to say one thing that brings joy to him or her or that he/she is grateful for. Hold hands in the circle of the table. It matters that you begin the meal in reverence and gratitude.

4. Remember your favorite holiday. After dessert, hand out pens and paper and have everyone write a short paragraph about their favorite holiday memory. Read these aloud to each other.

5. As you clean up, review the meal and the conversation. Dishwashing can be a time to concentrate on gratitude for those dear friends and family in your life who shared your holiday.

Sources

  • webmd.com/women/features/gratitute-health-boost
  • greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/pay_it_forward ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7484873
  • greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/pay_it_forward

 

Patricia Damery is the author of Farming Soul: A Tale of Initiation. She is an analyst member of the C.G. Jung Institute of San Francisco and in private practice. With her husband Donald, she has been a Demeter-certified biodynamic organic farmer for 10 years, growing grapes, raising goats, and growing and distilling lavender and other aromatic plants. patriciadamery.com.

Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 33, Number 6, December 2014/January 2015.

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