From ego to wholeness
by Nancy Murbach —
Our minds are full of feelings and emotions that surround our negative and positive thoughts. When a positive thought clashes with a negative thought, think about jump-starting a car. We put the positive and negative cables on the dead battery and then do the same on the other car’s battery. Together they start the car.
If the car does not restart, one of two things could have happened — we did not wait long enough to let the battery reenergize or a new battery may be needed.
Sometimes in life when we are in an egotistical mindset, we tend to play the victim card. We can respond one of two ways — we can plunge into feelings of shame, guilt and depression or we can turn our story around 180 degrees. Then we have a positive story to tell about how we overcame our situation.
Take the yin and yang theory for example. If we did not have the dark and light acting together, taking the light in the dark and the dark in the light, then we would not have balance on earth.
Once we are aware that there is light at the end of the dark, scary tunnel, we can drop any negative religious, societal or political views at the universe’s front doorstep. We can let go of the story we have told again and again. We become aware that our negative narrative no longer serves us and that the thoughts, feelings and emotions surrounding our story will never change without us making a change.
Shifting our perception can make the difference between a positive outlook and negative outlook. Try becoming aware of which elements of your narrative you are holding onto. Is there a message you need to learn and grow from? Are you playing the victim card to create sympathy? Is your story still relevant or is it linked to the past? If so, why hold onto the past?
Remember that everyone has negative experiences, but the next time you find yourself in victim mode, turn that story into a lesson from within with a newfound awareness that you survived it and are no longer what you were then.
Before I became aware of the stories I was telling, I was caught up in guilt, shame and doubt, all the while feeling a victim. “Poor me” got trapped by my mind’s running narrative.
Our lives are comprised of perceptions from childhood and stories of others, self and family. We can lose who we are when we become withdrawn and do not stay tuned into our own needs and our bodies. We can get lost in our narratives and let the ego take over, telling us it is acceptable to feel guilt, shame, resentment and the like.
The next time this happens, take a deep breath, relax and think about what is important to the spirit that lies within. Take time to recharge your battery and leave the negatively charged feelings and thoughts at the universe’s doorstep.
Nancy Murbach is a life coach, a certified clinical hypnotherapist and an energy intuitive worker. She has an administrative and organizational studies Mind Body Transformational Psychology degree. email@example.com or 602-842-8773.
Reprinted from AzNetNews, Volume 33, Number 6, December 2014/January 2015.